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Feeling the pressure in your relationship? Our #1 tip for how to deal.

couples connection Mar 27, 2020
 

Nothing spices up a relationship like spending 24 hours a day, 7 days a week together, right?  When we spend that much time together with anyone, it's only natural that we start to notice and become irritated by all kinds of little quirks.  

These are the little things (leaving laundry on the floor, loading the dishwasher the "wrong" way) that we feel like are simple to do "the right way," and yet, it seems our partner goes out of their way to do them in a way that annoys us. 

These things seem small at first, but the hidden danger is that their importance escalates (as does the annoyance) to a degree where they can drive a serious wedge into any relationship.  These escalation stages are called the 4Rs.

As Tyler and I have worked through our own issues, we've developed an extremely helpful process (which starts with the 4Rs) to help us talk about these everyday stressors and finally resolve them.

Tyler actually walks through this...

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Getting to the Bottom of Things

parenting Mar 24, 2020

The nice thing about slowing down is that it gives us a chance to get to the bottom of things that we’ve otherwise put off because we’re too “busy” spinning in our hamster wheels, experiencing symptoms but ignoring what will actually make us feel clean, clear, well, and fulfilled.

This is what getting to the bottom of my freezer looks like. It’s work and it’s gross to see how much we’ve let accumulate, but it’s so refreshing to get to the other side. Let’s face it...we’ve all got “bottom of the freezer stuff” going on in our lives. No use pretending we don’t...it’s something that connects us for heavens sake, so let’s get real about it and bring it out into the light! 

This has been and will continue to be a time of getting to the bottom of our kids behaviors, working less and being present more, improving our communication as a family unit, discarding the unneeded stuff we STILL have...

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The Koepke Family Quarantine Rules

Over the past few days Tyler and I have been attempting to wrap our minds around the uncertainty of what's happening with the COVID 19 virus and to talk with our kids about it.

I personally have been through the denial phase.

The sadness phase.

The irritation phase.

The frustration phase.

My first response was to flee...Who can watch my kids? I've got work to do! Can they go to their grandparents? Parenting is hard for me. I'm pretty sure it's hard for everyone, but for some people it seems like they are really "in their zone" with it. My "in the zone" place is my work and while I love and care for my kids to pieces and do a decent job at it, parenting is not necessarily my strongest suit.

Now, I am in a new phase. It's the curiosity phase. It's the "what happens when rather than running away from parenting, I lean in to it? phase. It's the "how are we going to use this time and space to better ourselves as a family?" phase. Because make no mistake about it, we could stand to spend...

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5 Ways to Center Yourself When People are Panicking

fulfillionaire leadership Mar 13, 2020

The topic that seems to be everywhere right now is COVID-19, and what I'm hearing from a lot of people is fear.  

Fear can be debilitating to anyone pursuing an ambitious goal, and it can also serve a crucial purpose to protect us from danger.  The trick is to understand helpful from harmful fear.  It can be particularly difficult to differentiate between helpful and harmful fear when the news uses headlines like, "Now a pandemic, coronavirus changes life indefinitely" (from CNN), or "Coronavirus forecasts are grim: ‘It’s going to get worse’" (Washington Post).  When fear runs rampant, it becomes vital to discern between the fear that is helping us survive, and the fear that is keeping us from making logical decisions.

Fear does that. It hijacks our imaginations and discards facts. Or at least focuses only on those facts that justify alarm.  This is not to dismiss the seriousness of the virus.  The information gathered...

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Fulfillionaire Leadership Principle #2: Navigating Conflict like a Champ

fulfillionaire leadership Mar 03, 2020
 

Conflict inherently has a negative connotation for many of us... 

It's something to be avoided. 

Or rushed through. 

Or avoided in the moment only to be rehashed with a safe sounding board afterwards.  

One of the most impactful lessons I've learned as I began to focus on my personal development was what a gift conflict really can be.  In the past, I avoided it as much as possible.   It was just easier to go passive, keep the peace, and avoid an uncomfortable situation than to assert my opinion.  

For me it took a major mindset shift about conflict to have the courage to assert myself.  However, once I started to see how much lighter and empowered I felt when I did speak up, my confidence grew and I began to try out my new skill in my most conflict riddled relationships.  

If you're ready to change your mindset around conflict, or lead others on how to do so, take a moment and try my conflict...

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Fulfillionaire Leadership Principle #1: People Support What They Help To Create

 

Principle #1: People Support What They Help To Create

This principle may seem obvious to you, but stop and think about whether or not you truly employ it for a moment. 

  • As a leader, when you roll out a new initiative, idea, or procedure with your staff, what is your process for doing so?  
  • Do you hold listening sessions or have conversations with key people who will be impacted by the changes?
  • Do you ask for input, feedback, or how the proposed changes might play out or affect real world functioning?

Now, I've heard all the objections:

  • That sounds like a great idea in theory, but we don't have time.  My educators already have enough on their plate.
  • What if they suggest things that we can't possibly do?
  • If I give people the chance to comment, I'm concerned they may only find problems with it.

My response is: "You don't have time not to, and being strategically proactive on the front end saves you time, money, and headaches in the long run."


Here's...

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What To Do When It Seems Like Everything is Going Wrong

 

I had a setback this week that hit me like a punch to the gut. I'm not going to bore you with the details of it, but let me just say, I'm up writing this blog post at 3:30 am because this setback is weighing on my mind. It sucked.

Phase 1 of dealing with setbacks usually looks something like this:

1. Curl up in a ball and throw myself a pity party

2. Reach out to get perspective from my most trusted sounding board friends

3. Move through the "I hate everything about the world and everything is terrible and wrong" angst and disappointment phase

Once I've done that I can move to the other side. And here is my take-away from this particular setback. The most important belief that I have about life is that everything is always, ALWAYS working out for me. Even when it doesn't feel like it. Even when it sucks a big butt and is hard and disappointing and exhausting and seems hopeless. 

How can I believe this and live this way? Because I derive my sources of inspiration and...

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What I Learned From Seeing Oprah Live

fulfillionaire Jan 16, 2020
 

I recently had the opportunity to fulfill one of my life's dreams: to see Oprah live. Her 2020 Vision: Your Life in Focus tour was making a stop in my backyard. So, once again, I said "yes" to myself and bought the ticket ($90 on Craigslist in a suite, pretty "sweet" deal...pun intended). And here were my biggest take-aways.

1) Consistency yields results

The life principles that Oprah talked about are universally applicable. They follow the same patterns, and when you understand them and stick with them, they yield results. She opened with this: 

Wellness = All Things in Balance AND we can have everything we're supposed to have, just not all at the same time. When we have the intention of balance as our starting point, then we make sure to give energy and attention to each segment of our life over time.  

2) Follow the leaders

Those who teach personal fulfillment and development (Oprah, Deepak, Tony Robbins, Danielle Laporte, Vishen Lakhiani, Brendon Burchard, Rachel...

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How a Fulfillionaire Sets Goals

fulfillionaire Jan 03, 2020
 

When you set goals, what is your process? For most people, they get super jazzed about an idea, they may or may not write it down, and then they go straight into implementation mode. 

For example, they’ll think, "I want to lose weight. I’m super motivated to do it because I’ve been eating like crap and none of my clothes fit." 

Next they...

  • Buy new workout clothes 
  • Join a gym
  • Stock their refrigerator with healthier food
  • Cook more often/eat out less

The problem is that after they do these things for a few days or weeks, the initial excitement and resolve wears off and the old habits slip back in.  They also realize pretty quickly, that just going through these motions….doing these tasks….there is something that feels kind of empty about the whole thing. 

It’s not fulfilling.

It’s not sustainable.

There is not enough motivation or inspiration to keep them going. 


You see, most of us have...

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Who Wants to be a Fulfillionaire?

educators fulfillionaire Dec 31, 2019

Here we go again...another round of New Year’s resolutions that will bring us a sense of purpose and clarity, for what 2 weeks? 1 month? 2 months max? 

The statistics on how many people actually follow through and accomplish their New Year's resolutions are rather grim.


Studies have shown that less than 25% of people stay committed to their resolutions after just 30 days, and only 8% accomplish them.


So if this is such a widespread challenge for most of us, what is the solution?

Clearly, we all want to do better, be better, stop eating so much we can’t fit in our pants, and stop spending money like it’s water.

That’s why we keep getting back up on the New Year’s resolution horse, and why we set new goals, not only at this time of year, but all year long. It’s not like we don’t have good intentions, or that we’re not trying, but year after year most of slip back into our same old habits, ruts, or routines and...

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